WHY SECOND BORNS ALWAYS END UP AS A REBEL

family gathering for a group hug with second born

Over time, I have come to realize that second borns many times end up as rebels, and it bothers me. I have always wanted to know why.

I know it may not be a universal issue, but where I am from – Nigeria, about 80% of families have this issue.

Will it stop? What could be the reason? This, many modern parents have tried to know about.

Most modern children have even tried to stop it.

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I have seen firstborns grow under the tutelage of their parents, live and abide by the tenets and rules of their parents.

But then, the second child comes and go against those guide set by the parents.

I have seen firstborn children, grow up and make sacrifices for the parents and the family, sometimes, sacrifices that are too much for their own personal growth.

While the second born child comes out and creates his own path, ignoring the path that the parents expected him to walk in.

parents looking at their daughter second born

THE CAUSE?

Parents are part of it! You may wonder how? Many times, parents are so invested in making the first child a perfect little portion of themselves, they sometimes forget the second born.

Most times too, the parents idolize the first child and the second child starts feeling neglected and jealous of the first child.

This jealousy grows over time into hatred and the child just decides that he hate his family and their values and decides to go against them.

CAN PARENTS REALLY STOP MAKING THE SECOND CHILD JEALOUS?

That is another question to ask. Can parents really stop or control themselves from taking the first child special.

Parents are humans, and all humans are emotional, so the first child is usually the womb opener. /A lot of love is usually bestowed on that first child. Sometimes to the detriment of the second-born child.

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HOW CAN THIS BE STOPPED?

This is the one thing I would like to so badly know and I feel I may not be alone on this, as a lot of parents also need answers to.

But I feel the cause of this, is parents giving partial love, or one-sided love, which cannot be totally avoided.

Well, you can state your reason why this happens or what you feel is a solution to this, in the comment section here; and don’t forget to quickly share this post too.

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