This true confession will tell you why you should not let her money stop you from making your move. Shocking true story reveals lessons to be learnt, from a WhatsApp group to a date.
So from poems back and forth. We were making calls talking rubbish, from how she is not happy with the woman grinding beans for her moin-moin, to how we should meet.
And bam, we agreed! A movie date. So, I went for a dutch date (a date where everybody pays for their bill).
She declined and said she’ll get movie tickets and I’ll get food. In my head, food won’t be more than pop corn and drink, so it’s still good!🌝🤗🤗
So, I got there first. Date venue was film house Port Harcourt.
Different girls were coming, some I’d wish it was her, some I’d say, “pls don’t be stephanie”
Finally she came… Omooooo… Girl was fine, and with the Abuja accent.. I was thrown off. I wanted to hug her, but I was confused.
All my confidence over the phone flew away😂😂😂😂😂
She apologized for coming late, while I tried to savour her beauty without her knowledge. (I wondered if she knew)
I mean, I had to act like I’ve been seeing pretty girls in this PH too na.
Next thing was, “what movie are we seeing.”
—”Oh, it’s up to you my lady.”
— “Paul, please stop all this chivalry”
As she moved to get the tickets, I tried to watch from behind too. Lemme observe the load behind. (I’m an African man, please 😊)
She got the movie tickets and as we got to our meal, she said, “Paul, I’m on my period, and I eat a lot during my period”
😂😂😂😂 Which kind scope be this? But then, I felt Steph was too pure to come and do me like this? So, I said, “sure.”
Steph got shawarma, salty popcorn and a fruit juice. By this point, she had exceeded ‘budget’. 😂😂😂😂
Meanwhile, I had borrowed N1,000 from my sister to add to N700 in my account. My mind was, popcorn and soft drinks N1,600
She then offered to pay, thinking I had money, that I should transfer to her. Well, I took nothing, only water as not to cross budget.
As we sat for the movie, my mind was on how I would pay back without appearing broke.
After the movie, she said she didn’t feel like going home now, that she wants us to walk around. I took it that I’m being a great date. 🤔😊😊
We started looking (window shopping) at stuffs at the mall. Then she picked a particular perfume, and smelt it, then asked of the price.
I observed with keen interest as I could see that my date, Steph, was richer than I was.
When told the price, she said, “Awwwnnn, so bad.😔😔 I wanted this perfume, but I’m broke, I’ll come back when I’m richer.”
That was it! What do you guys call it again? That was my rhema! 😅😅
While we walked, she yapped but my mind was on the event that just occurred. Omo!
Awwwwwn, so bad. I wanted this perfume, but I’m broke, I’ll come back when I’m richer.~ Stephanie to the salesperson
This was a perfume that I will be scared to touch, I mean I was a teacher that time, yet to get my NYSC certificate, so yes you can imagine my salary. + It was a private school, where you get to be paid late. 😅😅
I should stop here, as we have reach the moral lesson….
END OF STORY!
But itchy fingers… Here goes more of the story👇👇
Stephanie told me she wanted another movie. . I wanted another, but I was scared, cos I was broke.
So this time, we got there, she asked what I wanted, I said nothing. She persisted, and oh, I felt she was paying, so I took what I wanted.
Only for me to hear, after 2 minutes, “Paul, I hope you know we’re paying with your card this time?”
Then she said, don’t bother. She paid. I ate slowly, while at the movie, I felt so indebted, and it seemed like I had lost control.
Steph acted normal. 😂😂😂 after the movies, we took a cab to her house, fare was about N2,000. Meanwhile my house was N100 away.
I followed her to her house, and promised a second date.
After that date, I went to meet my employer for my salaries been owed 😂😂🙆😂😂
… Fast forward, there was another date, a swimming date, and then a birthday at her house.
Somehow sha, life happened between us both.
But the conversation I had with Stephanie in the cab back home was why I was able to publish my first book that same year 2019. We had met in June and by October, my first book – THE VISIT was out in paperback and on online bookstores.
2 years on, I’ve found it easier going after ladies irrespective of their finance. But far from dating, the lesson I want you to learn is this.
When she saw that perfume, she didn’t shy away from it, as I would have done. She picked it, and thought of how to get it, and then she said, “I will come back for it when I’m richer.”
Maybe she never went back to it. Maybe she never did. But she conditioned her mindset that she could get it.
It’s the same thing you should have for your life. You should never have that mind of “I CAN’T AFFORD IT”. That’s a statement or mindset of the poor.
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