Confidence is a very attractive feature. A very admirable trait. Especially when it is in the life of a teenager, more so a teenage girl.
When people talk about the challenges of teenagers, like peer pressure, drugs, cultism. They don’t know confidence has a lot. A huge lot to do with it.
Many times, its because of low self confidence that pushes a lot of teenagers into things they wouldn’t do normally.
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When people see me, they see a confident person. But I wasn’t always this way. There was a time when I didn’t revel walking in front of a crowd. There was a time when a super pretty girl would make me jittery.
Now, I am confident and I don’t know how. I can’t start telling a teenage girl that I look my fears in the eyes. It sounds like I don’t understand her.
She is super confident in her house, her compound, even in her school. But outside these zones, when she walks, she wishes the ground could open up and swallow her. She wishes people would reduce the way they look at her. 😖😖
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Now, one of the reason for this is because, as kids, they believed in their parents, totally. They totally believed in their parents. Whatever their parents told them, was the right one.
But as they grew, they started preferring the approval of their friends over their parents.
This teenage girl met me, and was telling me her self confidence (or self esteem) issues.
Now, I’d have told her she’s eating up my time. But I just couldn’t. I let her go on. I had to hear her out.
Cos I know most adults who didn’t deal with this issue in their teenage carried it into adult hood, and she’s 16. What do I tell her to boost her belief in her self.
What ever I tell her, she might find it too big. I actually recommended 2 books, I had the soft copies and promised her a hard copy.
The books — THE CONFIDENT WOMAN by JOYCE MEYER & 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL TEENS by Sean Covey.
But she wanted an advice, a direct advice to a 16 year old teenage girl, and I so badly wanted her to think highly of herself. I mean she is beautiful, intelligent, hardworking, but how do I boost this esteem? 🤔🤔🤔
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I can teach and give rehearsed speeches or orations on front of a crowd very well. But I still can’t work out something right there in front of the crowd and talk to them.
But I badly want the confidence issues of this teenage girl. So as a confident lady, could you share hints of how you overcame this situation.
As a man too, would you be kind enough to share how you overcame similar issue. Direct advice to this 16 year old teenage girl.
I am sure we also have adults interested to know about this + she is reading the comments too.