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So, you know how you get to meet this special someone on this special date after the both of you seem to connect on every space, from Facebook, to Whatsapp, to mutual friends, likes, and you’re dying to meet this special someone. Finally, a date is fixed, but then anxiety steps in. Would you be able to impress? Would you not make a mistake?
You have that date with that special person that you are meeting for the first time, you really want it to be gold, but you can’t stop being scared that you may not look as pretty as your picture looks or you may not impress, but you really want the vibes you had online to continue. This is how to:
When I say appearance most people begin to think about things they have no control of, like someone who has rabbit-long ears start to think, “do I wear a head warmer to help hide my ear?” Wrong! When I talk of appearance, think of the things you can control.
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Put some effort into it. Get a nice hairdo, apply some awesome make up, put on nice clothes, smell nice. Don’t try to downplay the date by appearing ordinary, you are sending the wrong message, and you may never get another date.
This has to be called, yeah. You know how much of a star you are on your Whatsapp, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. You know how much your ‘fans’ would miss you. But, my dear, if you were not flogged and forced to come on this date, you need to put that phone in a purse or pocket.
Nothing says “I want to leave here” more than gluing your eyes to the screen of your mobile device, while your date goes on yapping to your ears. (laughs) Do that to me and I am leaving right away.
You may be shy, but then if you had the cojones to fix a date, then you should have one to make eye contact!
3. BE CONVERSATIONAL
For a conversation to have grown to the level where you both decided to meet physically, it means you both weren’t just typing, “Hello, Sup,” making monosyllabic replies, so don’t come on here and lay back.
You may find it difficult if you are a very shy person. But my dear, you also have to put in the effort. Just talk about anything you could think about it. You run out of topic to talk about? say it too. It spices up the mood.
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If you are the very chatty type, make sure you know the line between being chatty and bragging. Also, a very very important one; ensure you have gotten rid of mouth odour of any sort. I mean it is the first date, but then, don’t go roaring with such wicked halitosis (mouth odour).
4. TABLE MANNERS
You know how your mama told you to not talk when eating. My dear, it has not stopped. As much as you want to say that next sentence or reply the question, don’t do it with food in your mouth.
Asides from the fact that you may choke, you may even blurt droppings onto your partner’s food. Whichever way, just avoid such.
5. BE YOURSELF
Above everything, be yourself. You could be nervous, anxious, broke, or poorer than your date. Do not try to be what you are not. Do not fake it, it will show. It is good to leave a good impression, but when you are faking it, everyone apart from you can know that you are faking it.
If you don’t know how to use knife and fork, don’t fake it. Simply be yourself. I have been on many first dates with different features. There was one in which she was the sponsor surprisingly, it was really hard to not be overtly humble. I mean a girl taking charge of all the bills. But then, you have to be yourself!
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Go out there, take on that date and make it a success!
Meanwhile, do well to add a few tips, that I may have missed, I will be waiting in the comment section, and I am sure I am not the only one waiting.