"To survive in this Nigeria you need connection", I hear that almost everywhere I go, people have a way of chipping it in every advice. Have we ever stopped to wonder "who are these people", "where do I meet these people", "How can I get connected and have this connection that people keep talking about?". There is this popular saying:people differ, no two persons can ever be the same. Well that's the beauty of life. In fact, life will be so boring without the differences in my own opinion. So get used to the fact that Nobody can ever be like you and No one can be you. Anyway, these differences are as a result of different backgrounds, different upbringings, the environment different people find themselves from childhood to adulthood.
Talking of these differences; There are people who are cheerful and fun to be with, there are people who are shy and quiet, there are also very noisy people, there are very aggressive and arrogant set of people, some people are even a mixture of several characteristics and personalities. These are the different kinds of people we tend to meet everyday. People also have different taste in music, different taste in food, different styles of fashion, different traditions and cultures, different habits and addictions and very interestingly different values and interests.
However, everyone of us have encounters with different kinds of people and that’s the same way people look at you and wonder “what kind of person are you” as well. This brings me back to the question ” How can I get connected and have these connection that people keep talking about?” Whether you like it or not, the connection you need is within the circle of people you meet each and everyday. We don’t understand the importance of communication and getting to know people that’s why it looks as if we don’t have this connection. All you need to survive in this life is around you but you have to open your eyes and take up the responsibility of getting to know people and stop cutting people off. The person that could help you tomorrow might be that truant in class, it could be the girl that sleeps around or the guy that womanizes, it can even be that ‘low class girl’ that you keep looking down on.
Regardless of who you are, you need to really get to know people, communicate with people, hang out with people. No one asked you to be close to anyone, you just need to be friendly and be nice to them. That way, the connection you have been yearning for will come your way. Sometimes, all we have been looking for have been right in front of our faces but we just didn’t acknowledge it.
In conclusion, I understand we have made some awesome decisions for the year 2020. Just remember; the person you keep downgrading can be your ticket to an important position tomorrow, the person you can’t talk to, can be the key to a door of opportunities. Everyone is not bad and not everyone is trying to take advantage of you. Everyone deserves a chance and you need that connection so never neglect anyone you meet this year.
Eke Comfort Chidinma is a native of Abia state, Nigeria from a family of three. She is based in Port Harcourt, Rivers state and a student at the Department of Anatomy in the University of Port Harcourt. She is a writer, an entrepreneur and volunteer.
She is one of the awesome writers that have been hosted on the blog so far, when asked what mused her to pen this piece, she replied…
“Well, I was learning alot about communication skills and I encountered some challenges with people that were a bit up tight. I felt I should write about it. More so, in the midst of meeting people, I met a lot of people that helped me in a short of period of time.
That’s so amazing and I learnt the wonders of connection”.
THE WONDERS OF CONNECTION! A book everyone must read (winks), if you want to write more on it. It was a great time having you over! Trust you’d dazzle us with more of this.